Monday, November 21, 2016

Disrespecting you is a "no-no."


Dear daughter, you are valuable to me. Any man who tells you he loves you should also make you know that he values you even more than I do.

If he begins to disrespect you today and you allow it, he will continue tomorrow.

Instead of allowing that to happen, this should be you in the picture walking away from him. 

Saturday, November 12, 2016

Evaluate his desires



Yes, he should desire you. Yes, he should be physically attracted to you. But most importantly, he must be attracted to you mentally and have his biggest desire be that of seeing what he can do to help you become the best you can be. Evaluate his desires.

A real man knows that having you by his side will make his life journey better and his hustle and grind, easier. If he knows these things, then he will be happy to wait for your body to be given to him on your wedding day. His desire to see you succeed will be born from his confidence that your success is his success. If you are at the stage in your relationship where the thought of your body is a desire, then he should have already decided that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. If he is indeed going to spend his life with you, then he will have the rest of your lives to enjoy your body (in the correct boundaries of marriage). Evaluate his desires.

If he says he cannot wait, and his desire to see you naked is greater than his desire to work on your success; my daughter, walk away. Trust me, he will not use the words, “I desire to see you naked,” but if he shows it in his actions, your response should be the same: walk away. God will bring the right man at the appropriate time. In the meantime, keep building yourself into the best and most successful wife material that you can be. 


Be patient. Evaluate your desires.


Friday, November 11, 2016

After the concession

"After the Concession"

History was almost made this week, and at the same time history was made. For the first time in the electoral processes of the United States, a woman ran on the ticket of a major political party for the highest office in the land. She came close to winning. She fought a long hard battle and was gracious in defeat as I watched her concession speech. She broke the first glass ceiling by being nominated to run, and would have “shattered the highest, hardest glass ceiling” if she won. Even though it wasn’t broken, there is now a huge dent in it that will never be forgotten. Someday, someone will shatter it. 

Here’s today’s lesson for my daughters: never let anyone tell you that you that there is anything you cannot do. I was inspired by her speech and want to pass on her advice to you: “To all the little girls who are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your dreams.” 

That’s the same lesson we have been discussing on my other social media pages (IG, FB, Twitter). Turn your thoughts, dreams, ideas, into steps and then pursue them. It must have begun as a thought in her head many years ago, then it became a pursuit and a journey that almost took her to the White House. Not just as first lady this time, but as President.

In the words of her vice-presidential running mate Tim Kaine, “She has been and is a great history maker.” 

Dear daughter, you can be a history maker as well!