Saturday, June 29, 2019


This morning, @idahosalaurie and I are praying for this to be your testimony.
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For those of us who have gone through trauma, for those of us who have been held down by fear, for those of us who have gone through and overcome pain, seeing a resemblance of our experience happen to someone else often painfully causes us to identify with them. It can bring up feelings of anger and cries for justice. It can reopen old wounds.  

Pain is an interesting phenomenon because by its design, it is really meant to protect. If, for example, your hand is placed on or near a heat source, your brain immediately tells your body to pull it away in order to prevent more damage to your hand and perhaps other parts of your body.

Pain will cause a person to pull back from the source of pain in order to prevent more damage.  But what happens when the damage has already been done?  The pain remains as a reminder and teacher for next time—the next time you see the heat source you know what not to do.

The healing process has also been intricately designed by God.  It has 3 stages: stage one, cleansing-dead, necrotic tissue. Stage two, granulation—deep defects cannot regenerate so a defect must be filled with new tissues and healed from the inside. Stage three, epithelisation—surface cells are in the process of completing the wound closure but are still vulnerable to negative effects.

This entire process is very close to what happens to us emotionally.If things happen which reopen wounds, it can cause further pain but also can bring a deeper healing to the affected areas. Wounds have the ability to heal quickly if treated right, but scars always take longer.

Our focus today is not so much about the events of yesterday, but instead is on those who had to live again through pain which they may have forgotten, repressed, or were told was their fault. We want you to be healed from trauma, shame, or guilt. 

Jesus doesn’t point fingers...He asked the condemned woman where her accusers were, and then released her to live a life that was different. The Apostle Paul told us there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because the Spirit which is in Jesus has actually come to set us free.  That same Spirit is the One who brings comfort, Justice, and healing. 

We are praying for you today, that God will lead you to find healing from the inside. We are praying for you, that whatever the enemy had wanted to use against you will instead become a source of strength for you and for those who hear your story.
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The Word of God promises in Jer 30.17, “For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal,“ even if they called you an outcast, saying “..it is (insert name here), for whom no one cares,” God wants you to know today that He cares and wants to remove your shame. 

You are probably familiar with the verse in Isaiah which says, for your shame, you will have double. But here is the same verse from the Bible In Basic English, 
[Isaiah 61:7 (BBE)] “As they had twice as much grief, and marks of shame were their heritage, so in their land they will be rewarded twice over, and will have eternal joy.”  

The Message version puts it this way, “Because you got a double dose of trouble and more than your share of contempt, Your inheritance in the land will be doubled and your joy go on forever.

That same chapter talks about how God loves justice, letting us know that God will bring justice on your behalf. However, the focus of that chapter is healing and restoration. God wants your restoration.

What the church in Nigeria needs now is restoration and healing for those who have been victims both from within and outside the church. Once again, my focus today is healing. God wants you healed. If you would like to read further, please click on the link in my bio to read further about how heal from trauma, but know this: you are being prayed for today. If God allowed pain in your past, it is because He knew you would be strong enough to one day stand on the other side of it, healed. Stronger. And with power for the future.

#IStandForHealing

Sunday, December 3, 2017

Is there a time to walk away?



Dear daughter,

A relationship is built by two imperfect people who make a conscious choice to love each other in spite of their shortcomings. The truth is both of you will make mistakes almost daily and if you continue to look closely, you’ll find more and more faults in him. Love will help you overlook them and love can help you love the faults out of him (more of that in another post).

Here’s the point of today’s post. If he is not willing to overlook your faults and keeps pointing them out...if he keeps putting you down for those faults...if he refuses to work with and walk with you in love and understanding, you need to consider walking away from the relationship before making it permanent in marriage.

Is there a time to walk away? Yes there is. But you will have to determine that based on some of your answers to the above questions. You determine if you should walk away.

Know when to walk away.

Monday, August 21, 2017

You are worth it




One of the strategies of the enemy is to downplay your value and worth--not to the world, but to you. With slow, deliberate thoughts that creep in, you can wake up on certain days feeling less than adequate and then doubt about everything that makes you, you begins to creep in.

The enemy will try to tell you that you're not valued by those around you. Do not agree with him.

He will try to trap you in a thought pattern that places you at the bottom, not on top. Do not allow those thoughts settle in.

His purpose is to make you feel down and forget your real worth. Don't let him.

Dear daughter, there is someone who thought you were worth dying for, so He did. And He would do it again if necessary. Thankfully it isn't. Once was enough, now it's up to you to live like you were worth the price, because you are.

So stop beating yourself up. Forgive yourself for every time you forgot your worth and begin to smile again.

Monday, November 21, 2016

Disrespecting you is a "no-no."


Dear daughter, you are valuable to me. Any man who tells you he loves you should also make you know that he values you even more than I do.

If he begins to disrespect you today and you allow it, he will continue tomorrow.

Instead of allowing that to happen, this should be you in the picture walking away from him. 

Saturday, November 12, 2016

Evaluate his desires



Yes, he should desire you. Yes, he should be physically attracted to you. But most importantly, he must be attracted to you mentally and have his biggest desire be that of seeing what he can do to help you become the best you can be. Evaluate his desires.

A real man knows that having you by his side will make his life journey better and his hustle and grind, easier. If he knows these things, then he will be happy to wait for your body to be given to him on your wedding day. His desire to see you succeed will be born from his confidence that your success is his success. If you are at the stage in your relationship where the thought of your body is a desire, then he should have already decided that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. If he is indeed going to spend his life with you, then he will have the rest of your lives to enjoy your body (in the correct boundaries of marriage). Evaluate his desires.

If he says he cannot wait, and his desire to see you naked is greater than his desire to work on your success; my daughter, walk away. Trust me, he will not use the words, “I desire to see you naked,” but if he shows it in his actions, your response should be the same: walk away. God will bring the right man at the appropriate time. In the meantime, keep building yourself into the best and most successful wife material that you can be. 


Be patient. Evaluate your desires.


Friday, November 11, 2016

After the concession

"After the Concession"

History was almost made this week, and at the same time history was made. For the first time in the electoral processes of the United States, a woman ran on the ticket of a major political party for the highest office in the land. She came close to winning. She fought a long hard battle and was gracious in defeat as I watched her concession speech. She broke the first glass ceiling by being nominated to run, and would have “shattered the highest, hardest glass ceiling” if she won. Even though it wasn’t broken, there is now a huge dent in it that will never be forgotten. Someday, someone will shatter it. 

Here’s today’s lesson for my daughters: never let anyone tell you that you that there is anything you cannot do. I was inspired by her speech and want to pass on her advice to you: “To all the little girls who are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your dreams.” 

That’s the same lesson we have been discussing on my other social media pages (IG, FB, Twitter). Turn your thoughts, dreams, ideas, into steps and then pursue them. It must have begun as a thought in her head many years ago, then it became a pursuit and a journey that almost took her to the White House. Not just as first lady this time, but as President.

In the words of her vice-presidential running mate Tim Kaine, “She has been and is a great history maker.” 

Dear daughter, you can be a history maker as well!